Fostering and your family
Just like the children who need to be looked after, foster carers come from all walks of life. But they all have one thing in common – they are able to give children a secure and loving home.
Fostering and your birth children
Often when people initially apply to foster they naturally have concerns about how this may impact on the lives of their birth children.
Shropshire Council recognises the importance of ensuring the foster carer’s birth children are part of the process, from that initial visit, to organising days out and engaging in activities with their foster siblings.
Read Gemma’s story below:
“My parents fostered children 5-15 from when I was about 10. I also had an younger brother so the kids we took in were similar in age to us.
At first it was hard for me. There were times that I felt I needed my parents help and support, but I always felt they were busy with the foster children. I know the social workers talk this over with you but it is not just the actual looking after them but all the visits as well.
Sometimes my brother and I felt that we were being replaced by the foster children – but then after a while I started to think if that’s how I am feeling now how must they feel, being taken away from everything they know and is familiar to them and coming to stay in a house where, at times, I can imagine they sensed our initial resentment.
Once we got over that first hurdle – we started to enjoy this experience of having new people coming into our home and staying with us. As in life, some you got on with better than others – some it was really hard to say goodbye to! But overall it has been a fantastic experience for my brother and I and I would say to anyone interested to just do it. I honestly think it’s a very positive experience for all involved. It certainly made our family stronger and to this day I still keep in touch with some of the children we fostered who have become friends for life.”